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Stay-at-Home Dads!

In this post I would like to talk about this contemporary fenomeno popularly called stay-at-home dads!

“A stay-at-home dad (alternatively, stay at home fatherhouse dadSAHDhousehusband, or house-spouse) is a term used to describe a father who is the main caregiver of the children and is the homemaker of the household. As families have evolved, the practice of being a stay-at-home dad has become more common.”

“In colonial American families, the family worked together as a unit and was self-sufficient.Because of the Industrial Revolution, large-scale production replaced home manufacturing; this shift, coupled with then-prevailing norms governing sex or gender roles, dictated that the father become the breadwinner and the mother the caregiver. When affection-based marriages emerged in the 1830s, parents began devoting more attention to children and family relationships became more open. World War II found many women entering the workforce out of necessity; women reassumed the caregiver position after the war, but, together with cultural shifts leading to the feminist movement and advances in birth control, their new-found sense of independence changed the traditional family structure. Some women opted to return to the care giver role. Others chose to pursue careers. When women chose to work outside of the home, alternative childcare became a necessity. If childcare options were too costly, unavailable, or undesirable, the stay-at-home dad became a viable option.

The number of stay-at-home dads has been gradually increasing, especially in developed Western nations. Though the role is still subject to many stereotypes, and men can have difficulties accessing parenting benefits, communities and services targeted at mothers, it is becoming more socially acceptable. The role offers economic benefits to the family, and enables strong emotional development for the child. Increasingly, the stay-at-home dad is being portrayed in the media, especially in the United States. However, in some regions of the world the stay-at-home dad remains culturally unacceptable.”

Increase in popularity!

Stay-at-home dads have been seen in increasing numbers in Western culture, especially in Canada, the UK and the United States since the late 20th century. In developed East Asian nations such as Japan and South Korea, this practice is less common.

There are several reasons why some families feel that it would be more beneficial for the father to be the primary caregiver while the mother works outside of the home. The decision to use a stay-at-home dad arrangement is most commonly due to economic reasons. There has been a disappearance of the types of white-collar jobs that men have traditionally filled. Many middle-aged men have become essentially unemployable, thereby causing a role reversal for economic reasons. At the same time, women are progressing into higher-paying jobs. There are now financial ramifications in deciding whether the mother or father should become the stay-at-home parent. In cases where the woman is the higher-paid parent, it makes more economic sense for her to continue to work while the man takes on the caregiver role. At times the mother’s job offers healthbenefits for the family whereas the father’s does not.

With the growth of telecommuting, many men are also able to work from home. In this regard, he is contributing financially to the family while also acting as the primary caregiver of the family’s children. Differences in parent’s schedules can also account for some of the stay-at-home dads. Sometimes the father works odd work shifts while the mother has a typical nine-to-five work schedule.

Fixed gender roles have become less prominent in the Western world in recent years, allowing men to make their own choice of career without regard to traditional gender-based roles. Some men who choose this role may do so because they enjoy being an active part of their children’s lives, while in other families, the mother wants to pursue her career. For example, of the 187 participants at Fortune Magazine’s Most Powerful Women in the Business Summit, 1/3 of the women’s husbands were stay-at-home dads.[15]Families vary widely in terms of how household chores are divided. Some retired males who marry a younger woman decide to become stay-at-home dads while their wivesworks because they want a “second chance” to watch a child grow up in a second or third marriage. Additionally, more career and lifestyle options are accepted and prevalent in Western society. There are also fewer restrictions on what constitutes a family. The rising number of single fathers and gay couples raising children means that there may not be a potential stay-at-home mother.

It has become famous even in pop culture! Including:

  • Films: Mr. Mom, Daddy daycare, etc.
  • Music: Again a song called Mr.Mom by Lonestar, and “Stay at home dad” By Jon Lajoie
  • Novels: Diary of a Hapless Househusband, Housebroken: Confessions of a Stay-at-Home Dad, etc.
  • Books: Do Men Mother? by the sociologist Andrea Doucet, Stay-at-Home Dad’s: The Essential Guide to Creating the New Family, etc.
  • Comics: Adam@home
  • TV: Desperate Housewives, The Bernie Mac Show, DadDiO and of course “Stay-At-Home-Dad!”

It even has its own stay-at-home dad’s community! check it out if you want, here’s the link:

The online community for Stay At Home Dads to Network

I think that the typical “macho” male would react horrible at a situtation where they’re unemployed and looking for a job without luck, having to stay at home and take care of the kids, actually it’s pretty complex for both partners, not just in an economical approach but, psychologically talking. It’s a quite delicate spot we’re analyzing here. Specially at the long term, when the roles are mixed up, and the males patience and pride starts collapsing.

Lurking the web I found a very funny (a bit black humor) sketches abouta stay-at-home dad called Brandon.

Here’s the info:

“Poor Brandon. He just lost his job at the Commodities Exchange to a computer, and now it’s goodbye to the trading pit, booze and testosterone, and hello to life as a Stay At Home Dad.”

I think the humour here is just a little too much PICANT!!! but if you are open minded and not easily offended go ahead and check it out! I think you even might have a laugh or two 😉


PD: ALSO here is a picture of TK-423 check it out! haha


Posted by Álvaro!


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